11/25/15 Saying Goodbye to Jim’s Mom

Hello, Elizabeth here. Seems like Maggie has been away from the blog forever. She said to tell you she has lots to say in the upcoming days, because death does not stop life, and Maggie is definitely living.

We were up at 5 a.m. to prepare for the combination wake/funeral for Jim and John’s mom Therese yesterday. The funeral home was about an hour away , and we had to be there early to set up the memorial boards. The wake started early, at 8:00 a.m, and went for two and a half hours.

We were surprised to see so many people who took time out of their day to drop by, look at the pictures, share a memory, and pay their respects. It was sad, and funny, and touching, each in turn.

John gave a sweet eulogy about Therese, and how she always supported her children, especially the two boys who were stricken with Muscular Dystrophy. (I mentioned in a previous blog that they passed in their (very) early 20’s.)

At 10:30 a.m. a Deacon came, and held a short service. He said the words we are all familiar with, and that was comforting. There is something to be said for ritual.

My boys Mike, Erik, and Jamie, were called upon to serve as pallbearers for their grandmother. They showed their respect and did this with love and grace. We then took Therese on the long ride to the cemetery, where a Chapel service was held. The Deacon again officiated, and afterward, Jim led the funeral guests to the banquet hall where lunch was to be served.

John stayed behind, to tuck his mom in one more time, and make sure the burial went off without a hitch. My heart ached for him that he and his wife had this sad duty to bear; but both men could not stay at the cemetery. John and his wife joined us not much later at the banquet hall, and we visited, and celebrated Therese’s 90 years of life.

Today, we are preparing to have family over tomorrow for the Thanksgiving meal. I am truly grateful and thankful for my family. We pulled together during the tough times, and I am proud of them.

Maggie and I wish you all a Happy Thanksgiving, and thank you as well for your kind words and comments regarding the passing of Therese.

Maggie is scheduled back just as soon as she can. Tomorrow she is going to meet her little nephews for the first time, and I’m sure she will have a LOT to tell you. Thank you again so much for your support at this time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

6 thoughts on “11/25/15 Saying Goodbye to Jim’s Mom

  1. hitandrun1964

    Happy that everything went o well. Everyone must be exhausted. She certainly lived a long time and I know she was happy with all the arrangements made on her behalf. Looking forward to hearing from Maggie again. I hope the next couple of days go smoothly and you get some rest.

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  2. colinandray

    Sadly. most of us (possibly all of us) have experienced a variation on your circumstances. Although I am not aware of any way to move on except by going through the mourning process at your own speed, I have no doubt that you have many happy memories to draw from. Draw from them as necessary. Continue to celebrate her life and, when the time feels right, blogging awaits you! I am sure that we are all, in general, a very patient and understanding “bunch”! Take care.

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